The favored subreddit “Am I the Asshole?” is, as mods put it, “a catharsis for the annoyed ethical thinker in all of us, and a spot to lastly discover out in case you have been mistaken in an argument that’s been bothering you.” Sadly, the neighborhood strictly bans any posts involving strolling out on family members. So with no higher place to submit it, Polygon has allowed one nameless person to publish their AITA right here on the positioning. Choose accordingly.
It’s my (128m) first time posting, and I require recommendation earlier than I get caught in a difficult social scenario. I’m feeling remorse over strolling out on my former life, together with my cousin (50m), who I used to be fairly near, so I figured I’d ask right here. Take note I’ve no youngsters and by no means married, and most of my journey in life was utterly sudden.
Rising up, folks didn’t go away my hometown. You caught round, labored the work, bought a pint on the best way dwelling, and that was mainly it. As an alternative of doing that I made a decision to take a job out of the country, which was mainly unparalleled. Lengthy story brief, a neighborhood movie star — he’d get high billing on the town-wide Midsummer-eve occasion yearly — looped me in with a squad of refugees attempting to overthrow the ruler of their ancestral dwelling, and I grew to become their runner. Terrifying, however … a thrill of a lifetime lol. Finally I got here dwelling to retire early as a result of we bought their mountain again, they paid me some huge cash, and I didn’t have wherever else to go. Nobody at dwelling actually had an issue however everybody nonetheless thought I used to be sort of a bizarre man.
I might be forthright and say I didn’t have to fret about cash once I got here dwelling, so I spent most of my time serving to folks round city (and dealing on my memoir). I had pals, some folks hated me (principally my nosy older cousins, who’ve all the time been mad that I inherited our grandparents’ home). I additionally took in my child cousin after his dad and mom died in a deeply fucked boating accident. He wasn’t like my *son* or one thing however the entire thing was tragic and I felt like I ought to educate him every thing I knew. Cash I made went to him, I shared my conflict tales with him and his pals, and we have been all actually shut. We now have the identical birthday and we all the time celebrated collectively.
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My downside was that I got here dwelling an addict. There may be dangerous shit, after which there’s dangerous shit. I used to be by no means too fucked up that I couldn’t handle my job or obligations however I additionally couldn’t stop. My treasured shit ate away at me, nevertheless it felt like the one option to simply mix in and get by within the sort of small city the place you get seen all over the place you go. I preferred what my cousin and I had however you miss that sort of freedom I suppose? So I made a decision the one option to stop is perhaps to utterly stroll out on my life the best way I did once I first left.
However as an alternative of telling folks I used to be going to depart like a traditional individual I simply did it. On my cousin’s and my birthday in September (this was 17 years in the past) folks in my neighborhood determined to throw a block occasion. Everybody was having enjoyable — my party-loving ex-coworker even got here in to do fireworks — however my treasured was pulling me the opposite means. I felt skinny. Or kind of stretched? Like butter scraped over an excessive amount of bread. I used to be nonetheless the “previous me,” telling tales and even giving slightly thanks speech, however after my thank yous I vanished. Actually, gone. I went again to my home, grabbed my sword and mithril coat, and walked out. I didn’t inform my cousin, who was sufficiently old to deal with himself. The one purpose I’m alive to speak about it is because my smart previous weed buddy caught me and demanded I hand over the products. He knew what was sucking my soul away. I knew I wanted a vacation.
I haven’t seen my cousin since. We by no means talked about every thing I used to be coping with as a result of I didn’t suppose I might actually be sincere about it. I left him our home, a lot of the cash, and wound up residing within the mountains with a bunch of New Age devotees who need nothing to do with mankind. I used to be in a position to kick my behavior, and I even wrote every thing down in a ebook (unpublished), nevertheless it’s all come at the price of no matter folks consider me now. I don’t actually know as a result of I didn’t anticipate I ought to return, and truthfully, I meant to not.
I don’t know if I can blame my previous job and habit for utterly ghosting on my life afterward. This didn’t come out of nowhere however i wasn’t certain what to do and it helped. I’m positively a unique individual now.
Anyway it looks as if my cousin has came upon the place I’m and is coming to go to with three of his pals. He’s positively going to wish to discuss to me about what occurred. AITA?